If you have parented a toddler, you probably have experienced at least one tantrum, and then hoped it would never happen again. They can happen out of the blue. One minute everything is sunshine and roses and the next second your toddler is on the ground screaming and thrashing. If the people around you are not parents they will look at you as if all of this is your fault when you would do anything in your power to stop it. So why do toddlers have tantrums, and how can you avoid or stop them?
Why tantrums happen
Being a toddler can be tough because they are trying to figure out their world, and they still cannot always communicate adequately. They are also trying to figure out their place in the grand scheme. So here are a few of the main reasons for tantrums.
Frustration
When they cannot communicate well, frustration comes easily. They want their needs met, and you do not understand the message, or you are refusing to give them what they are asking for. If you have ever been in a country where you didn’t speak or understand the language, you can understand how the child feels.
They are hungry, thirsty, or tired
Always bring snacks no matter where you go. Bring some for yourself too! Don’t go anywhere with a tired child if you can avoid it. I know I’m pretty grumpy when I’m tired.
They are overstimulated
We want our children to have fun, but too much excitement and noise can cause issues.
How should you react to a tantrum?
You don’t ever want to match your child’s negative emotions. Stay calm so he knows you are in control. Emotions like anger are fuel to the fire. When there isn’t a reaction to the tantrum it eventually fizzles out.
How can you stop a tantrum?
Distraction is an amazing behavior technique. You want to switch the toddler’s attention to something else. Comment on something interesting you see, suggest you go see something, or start doing another activity. If you are in a safe environment like your home, walk away. Your child will be surprised and will realize his actions are not causing the attention he was hoping for.
Realize that this is another phase, and you will survive it. My first child had horrible tantrums, but my second two never did. Good luck!
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