Many of us suffer from insecurities, and we would rather avoid trying something new and failing at it, but if we don’t step out of our comfort zone we cannot grow, and we will end up being stagnant with what is comfortable.
Stepping out of our comfort zone can be terrifying. You have to realize that fear of failure is a dream crusher, and it defeats us before we even attempt something. I truly believe if you are convinced you will fail then you will, but If we believe there is a possibility we can do it, that first step is a little easier, and as we start to see success and the possibilities, the sky is the limit. I have a sign on my desk that says that something is only impossible until you do it. Here are a few things that will help you believe that you can do those things that seem out of reach.
Adopt a positive mindset. Positive thinking can send out strong energy and when you use positive words of affirmation, it is amazing to see the results. After you prove once or twice that you are capable of difficult tasks, you will gain confidence and continue to be stronger. Possible mantras are as simple as, “I am strong enough to do this.” “I am capable.” Also, adopt a growth mindset. This means that if something is difficult for you to accomplish, acknowledge that you might need some additional knowledge or experience and although you haven’t accomplished it yet, you will.
Write down what you want to accomplish but write it as if it is definitely going to happen. I will run a great race next Saturday. I will be so happy with my performance.
Ignore the haters. No matter how well you do something, there will be people who find something to criticize. Worrying about what other people say is wasted energy unless it is a good critique that you can use to grow. If you are passionate about something, you need to do it, and sometimes that means you do it even without support from those around you.
Be patient. Make goals and plans for what you want to accomplish, and if something doesn’t work, then reflect on what needs to change. Let’s say your dream is to complete a marathon. You can’t be ready for that in a week. Give yourself time.
Be persistent. It is so easy to give up when we don’t find success right away. You have to keep trying, and if you fail at something, so what? Get back up and try again.
Remember you are special. This sounds like you have an ego, but it is a good practice to remind yourself of your good qualities on those days when you are feeling down.
Visualize your success. Imagine yourself completing whatever it is you want to do. Take some time every day to focus on that success.
O.k., it’s time for you to go prove that you can. The first step is to believe you can.