The Moments That Mattered As A Parent

I know the power of sharing experiences. We often feel that we are alone in our struggles, and as parents, we frequently ask ourselves if we made the right decision. Hearing the experiences of other parents is helpful, whether those experiences reinforce the feeling that we did something right, offer us alternatives for next time, or help us laugh at situations. I am going to pose some questions, give you my response, and encourage you to respond as well, either in the comments, through a discussion with others, or only in your thoughts.

What were some of your sweetest moments as a parent?

• I loved it when my babies fell asleep on my chest. Even though there were a million things I should do while they were sleeping, I knew these moments were special.

• Each child developed special interests, and I enjoyed seeing how happy they were when they were doing them. My oldest likes to travel, the middle child loves bugs and photography, and the youngest loved going to a local lake with a net and bowl to catch baby turtles and salamanders.

• When I would read to them at night, I would start to fall asleep, and they would say, “Mommy, you need to go to bed!”

• On my 60^th birthday, my family gave me a party, and my children told me why they were thankful I was their parent. Considering they told me many times that I was ruining their lives, I appreciated their words.

What were some of your hardest moments as a parent?

• Sometimes I knew that discipline was the right thing to do, but it was so hard to do. I knew I had to do it, though, because they needed to learn that actions have consequences.

• Finding out when they had done something wrong was always tough.

• Seeing all three struggle with depression was gut-wrenching.

• Although I am thankful that all three are happy, it was hard to have them leave home to start their lives.

• When my husband was battling addiction and traveling constantly to hide it. I felt like a single parent, and I felt very alone.

When did you sound or act like your parents?

•  I swore I would never worry as much as my mom, but I worry about everything.

• I know I said, “After everything we have done for you!” at least once.

What do you think you have taught your children?

• Resilience

• Be kind

• Do what’s right

• Have a good work ethic.

It’s your turn now. How would you answer these questions?