When my first child was born, I remember feeling terrorized. I was positive I wasn’t up to the job of being a good parent to this beautiful and tiny human. I had no idea what she would teach me about parenting, myself, and life. I didn’t know that I would have to feel every emotion, learn that saying no could teach valuable lessons, and that I would always question whether I was doing a good job. Parenting is tough and glorious at the same time. As parents, we need to help each other by offering our stories, wisdom, and encouragement. Here are a few bits of encouragement I would like to give you:
I would tell the parents of babies that you will eventually sleep through the night again. Be prepared for the first time the baby sleeps through the night because you won’t since you are sure something might be wrong. Enjoy those times when the baby falls asleep on your chest.
Your child is going to go through phases when life seems overwhelming, (being a toddler or teenager). Your child’s emotions and frustration might take over, so you need to keep your emotions in control, so your child feels like at least someone has control of the situation. It’s normal though to have a few tantrums of your own, so give yourself grace. Apologizing to your child is a teaching moment.
There is not a perfect parent or parenting style so please do not compare yourself to other parents. You never know what burden the parent you emulate might be carrying. Do what works for you.
Ask for help whether that means having someone babysit so you can rest, or meeting with other moms.
Keep a sense of humor. Parenting is messy, so laughing at the crazy situations can make you feel better. Realize that everything does seem to go wrong at once, but at least you are getting it all out of the way!
Stay positive instead of only seeing burdens. Your child will be grown and gone before you know it, so enjoy every moment.
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